TL;DR
Understanding Anxiety Disorders in Children
Ever wonder why some kids seem to worry way more than others? It's not just about being shy or sensitive; sometimes, it's something more. Let's dive into understanding anxiety disorders in children, cause honestly, it is more common than most people think.
Anxiety is that feeling you get when something feels off, a bit scary—like when you're waiting for test results. But for kids with anxiety disorders, this feeling doesn't just pop up now and then; it sticks around, messing with their daily lives.
- It's a Spectrum: Anxiety isn't one-size-fits-all. It ranges from normal jitters to full-blown disorders.
- Not Just Typical Fears: All kids get scared—monsters under the bed, the dark, whatever. But anxiety disorders? They're like those fears turned up to eleven, impacting school, friendships, sleep...everything.
- The DSM-5: This is basically the bible for diagnosing mental health stuff. It lays out the criteria for anxiety disorders, making sure we're all on the same page.
- More Common Than You Think: It's estimated that around > 7.1% of children aged 3-17 years have diagnosed anxiety https://www.cdc.gov/childrensmentalhealth/data.html
So, what can you do? Well, according to Brown University Health, as parents, you are in the best position to teach your child about anxiety.
Next up, we'll break down the different types of anxiety disorders that often show up in childhood. It's good to know what's what!
Creating a Supportive Home Environment
Okay, so you want to make your home a haven for your anxious kiddo? It's more than just "good vibes only"—it's about setting up an environment that actually helps them feel secure.
Communication is KEY: Really listen when your child is talking. I mean really listen. Use open-ended questions like, "how are you feeling about the science fair?" instead of leading ones that might put words in their mouth—as Child Mind Institute suggests.
routines, routines, routines: kids with anxiety thrive off knowing what's coming next. Visual schedules? Gold. Preparing them for changes, even small ones, can make a huge difference. but don't go overboard; balance is key.
Validate, but don't enable: It's okay to say, "i know you're scared, and i know you can handle this." Showing confidence in their ability to cope is huge, according Josh Spitalnick, PhD, ABPP, and Marti Munford, LPC.
And remember, kids pick up on everything. If you're stressed all the time, they'll feel it. Next, let's dive into some ways you can model calmness and emotional regulation.
Practical Parenting Tips for Managing Anxiety
Is your kiddo's anxiety feeling like a never-ending story? It doesn't have to be! Let's talk practical stuff you can do right now.
Start small. If your child fears dogs, don't throw 'em in a kennel! Maybe start by looking at pictures of dogs. Then, maybe watch videos. If that goes well, a trip to the park but keeping a safe distance.
- Fear Hierarchy: List fears from "meh" to "AHH!" and tackle the easiest first.
- Positive Vibes Only: High-fives and "you got this!" are key. but keep it real, don't overdo it.
Anxious thoughts? We all have 'em. But we can learn to challenge them.
- Spot those sneaky thoughts: "I'm gonna fail!" becomes, "what if i study a bit more?"
- Positive self-talk: Sounds cheesy, but it works. "I'm brave enough to try" is way better than "i can't do it!" According to Managing Anxiety: Tips for Families, positive self-talk can really benefit your child.
Seriously, deep breathing is like a superpower. Mindfulness too.
- Belly breaths: In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4. Repeat.
- Fidget toys: Silly putty? Stress balls? Find something that helps them chill.
It's all about baby steps and celebrating every win, no matter how small. Next up, we'll look at when it's time to call in the pros.
When to Seek Professional Help
Okay, so you've tried some things at home, but you're still wondering if it's time to get some real help? Let's face it, sometimes us parents need backup.
- Daily Functioning is Severely Impacted: Is anxiety stopping your kid from doing normal kid stuff? Like, are they missing school or avoiding friends because of it? That's a biggie.
- Other Issues Popping Up: if depression or other mental health problems are showing their face, its a sign. Anxiety doesn't always play solo.
- Home Strategies Aren't Cutting It: You tried the tips, the tricks, the deep breaths—nada. It's okay to admit defeat, sometimes you need to get in touch with some help.
- Thoughts of Self-Harm: This one's non-negotiable. If your kiddo is talking about hurting themselves, get help yesterday.
There's cbt, erp, family therapy and more!
- cbt helps kids change those anxious thought patterns.
- erp for ocd and phobias.
- Family therapy can help everyone communicate better, as was mentioned earlier.
Finding a therapist can feel overwhelming—but it doesn't have to be! Do your research and ask questions.
Remember, seeking professional help isn't failing; it's stepping up.