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Last updated: Mar 8, 2025

Understanding Gaslighting: Recognizing and Overcoming Manipulation

Understanding Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a term that has gained popularity in recent years, but what does it really mean? In simple terms, gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation where one person makes another doubt their own perceptions, memories, or feelings. It can happen in various relationships, such as romantic partners, family members, friends, or even in workplaces. Let’s break it down further.

What Are the Signs of Gaslighting?

Recognizing gaslighting can be tricky. Here are some common signs:

  • Constantly Questioning Yourself: If you feel confused about your own memories or feelings, it might be a sign.
  • Feeling Disoriented: You may feel like you’re losing your grip on reality.
  • Doubting Your Judgment: A gaslighter often makes you think you can’t trust your own thoughts or perceptions.
  • Feeling Isolated: A gaslighter might try to distance you from friends and family to exert more control.

Types of Gaslighting

Gaslighting can manifest in different ways, including:

  1. Personal Gaslighting: This occurs in close relationships, like with a partner or family member. For example, if your partner denies saying something hurtful and insists you’re just being overly sensitive, that’s gaslighting.
  2. Workplace Gaslighting: In professional settings, a supervisor might take credit for your ideas and make you feel incompetent.
  3. Cultural Gaslighting: This form occurs when society dismisses certain groups’ experiences or feelings, making them feel invalidated.

Steps to Recognize Gaslighting

If you suspect you’re a victim of gaslighting, consider these steps:

  • Keep a Journal: Write down your thoughts and experiences. This can help you validate your feelings and memories.
  • Talk to Trusted Friends: Share your experiences with people you trust. They can offer their perspectives and support.
  • Educate Yourself: Learn more about gaslighting. Understanding it can empower you.

Real-Life Example

Imagine Sarah, who has been with her boyfriend, Tom, for two years. Tom frequently tells her that she’s “too sensitive” when she expresses her feelings. One day, Sarah recalls a conversation where Tom promised to help her with chores. When she brings it up, he denies ever having said it and accuses her of imagining things. Over time, Sarah starts to feel unsure about her memory and begins to doubt herself.

How to Overcome Gaslighting

If you find yourself in a gaslighting situation, here are some strategies to consider:

  • Set Boundaries: Clearly communicate what behaviors you will not tolerate.
  • Seek Professional Help: Therapy can provide support and strategies to cope with gaslighting.
  • Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with people who validate your feelings and experiences.

Gaslighting is a challenging experience, but understanding it is the first step toward reclaiming your reality and mental health.

Dr. Neeshu Rathore

Dr. Neeshu Rathore

Clinical Psychologist, Associate Professor, and PhD Guide. Mental Health Advocate and Founder of PsyWellPath.com.